This is a community for anyone whose father has died to mourn and talk about their feelings with others who have been there. Feeling numb? Hurting? Lonely? Shocked? Angry? Sad? Ambivalent? These are just some of the common reactions to the loss of a loved one, and you're welcome to talk about these sorts of feelings here. Whether your loss is recent or from many decades ago, you are welcome here if you feel you need support. Those who are mourning a mother might wish to join momlessdaughter, although that community is not directly affiliated with ours.
Other communities you may want to join: griefrecovery and foryourloss The only rule here is: Please try to be supportive and understanding with your comments here. Do not try to make anyone feel like their problems are trivial compared to yours or that anyone is wrong to feel a certain way. I will immediately delete any comment that I feel might be regarded by the other members as hurtful or insensitive.
The Community Owner's Story This community is maintained by maranta, whose father died suddenly on September 5, 2002 at the age of 57. He battled serious complications of diabetes for the last 10 years of his life, starting with a massive stroke, ultimately leading up to the amputation of his right leg and three heart attacks. Tragically, after surviving all that, he didn't have the strength left to fight off an infection after a surgery meant to save his remaining leg. I loved him so much that I thought I wouldn't survive losing him. Now I realize I can survive. Nonetheless, seeing him go through all those experiences left a major impact on me, and I'd like to be able to talk about it on occasion.
This community is also co-moderated by gratefuladdict (formerly ashkekechara). My father died of pneumonia from multiple sclerosis when I was 14, in 1997. The story never gets old for me, and I love having a place to talk about him where dads are never old news. Feel free to contact me via email at firstname.lastname@example.org if you have any questions or comments about the community!
Would you like to share your story too? Members' stories/intro posts are now compiled in the 'Memories' section. If you wish to opt out of this for some reason, just contact the community owner.
We are also compiling a list of anniversary dates and birthdays of our fathers, for those of you who would like to be included and recognized in that. You can go to this post to add your information.
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